
“Maybe you can answer this for me,” Riley said.
Brigid waited for the question, but Riley had fallen silent.
“What’s that?” she asked. The question was quick and her tone was upbeat. They’d discussed so many emotional topics over the weekend, she was anxious to keep the conversation light.
“Why can’t I cry when I’m supposed to? I didn’t cry at my daughter’s funeral, but I’ll cry at a random movie. I’ve been to five different counselors and not one of them could answer this question.”
“Grief is a funny thing. It twists you in ways you didn’t think were possible.” Brigid paused to consider her own grief and the years of learning to cry.
“I was in a terrible car accident when I was sixteen. The doctors don’t really know how I was able to walk away with only a few cuts, but anyway that has nothing to do with my point.”
“I think I remember the accident. But what does that—“
“Hold on, I’m just trying to illustrate my point. They took me to the hospital. The doctors and nurses in the emergency room were really freaked out, but I remained calm during this whole time. I didn't cry, I answered all their questions as if I'd suffered no maore than a paper cut. It wasn’t until my mom walked into the ER that I finally broke down. I bawled and bawled when she was finally there.”
“Okay?” Riley asked as if skeptical that Brigid would get to the point.
“I always hold it together until someone is there to take the burden from me. I’m guessing that you are very similar, only you don’t have to support system that will allow you to cry in times of great grief and pain. Your parents are gone, your grandma isn’t doing well, and your wife ended many of your friendships without offering you the comfort that friends would have provided. You had to be strong for you and your family. There was no one to help you shoulder that tremendous burden, so there wasn’t chance for you grieve and cry.”
Brigid paused and considered her next words carefully. "I believe the most amazing part about being in a relationship is finding someone that will help carry the weight and to support each other even when the burden is overwhelming."



















